Traditions and Symbols
These are just three of the wonderful ceremonies that you can incorporate into making your wedding special:
Candle Lighting Ceremony
The symbolism of candles is reflected in numerous ways in our religious and cultural traditions. In today’s civil marriage ceremonies, many couples choose to light a “Unity Candle” at their wedding.
At the beginning of the ceremony, two outside candles are lit by the couple’s mothers (family member or close friend). These distinct flames, each burning alone, can represent the faith, wisdom and love received from their parents or they can represent the Bride & Groom’s single lives to this point. Together, at the end of their ceremony, the couple lights a centre candle, their “Unity Candle”, thus symbolizing the union of their lives in marriage.
The Bride and Groom pour two containers of coloured sand, one representing the Groom and, the other, the Bride. The sand represents their life as they know it today.
As these two containers of sand are poured into a third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.
Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will their marriage be an inseparable union.
According to an American Indian legend, if you desire a wish to come true, you must capture a butterfly, whisper your wish to it, and then let it go.
Since a butterfly can make no sound, it cannot reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit, who hears and sees all. In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to the legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and granted.
We have gathered today to grant this couple our best wishes, and are about to set these butterflies free. We trust all these wishes will be granted.
And so, I would like to ask Bride and Groom to release the butterflies, and I would ask everyone to make a wish for their future lives and happiness.
Commitment or Renewal of Vows Ceremony
This ceremony is similar to a Wedding Ceremony, except for the legal paper work and legal wording. This may be done at any time during your life together. It is a way of saying “I love you” once again. It may be that it is a special anniversary, or because the friends and family whom you would have wanted to be there, were unable to attend the first time around. It may contain many aspects of a wedding ceremony – most contain the following elements: Introduction, Readings, Vows, Poems, The Giving of Rings and a Declaration.
I have a collection of ceremonies, vows and readings for you to choose from and have performed the way you want it. It is entirely up to you whether you decide to include religion or culture as part of your ceremony. You may also wish to have a Rose Ceremony, Butterfly Release, or a Sand Ceremony This is your special day, so choose (or, feel free to) have it the way you want it.
A Celebration of a life well lived!
A loved one’s funeral is not easy to plan, but you can make it a memorable and special day. It will provide your family and loved ones with a way of remembering the person as they were. Even though it is a very sad time, this is the opportunity for family and friends to recognize and celebrate the life, achievements and philosophy of the dear departed. It can be done with humour and with grace.
Funeral Ceremonies can include an Introduction, Biography or Eulogy, Reflection or Prayer, Readings and Poems by family and friends and The Committal.
I will help the family of the loved one plan a Celebration that will be fitting for his/her passing.
It is always a wonderful idea to incorporate a photo or piece of music that was their favourite.
A Naming Ceremony can be done for all age groups. It is not a Christening or a Baptism, but it is a lovely way of welcoming a family member into “the family”.
Most naming ceremonies include the following aspects: Introduction, Readings, Grandparents, Godparents or Mentors, The Naming of the Child/Adult, Final Declaration and Presentation of the Certificate
The Naming Ceremony reflects your own special philosophy. It can be done with a religious or non religious theme. It is a wonderful way to surround yourself with family and friends to welcome the newest addition to the family.